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Recently, I took my youngest son to the pet store to pick out a hamster for his 11th birthday. I’m not sure why, but I think it’s a rite of childhood passage to have a hamster. So, we added a new little member – who he lovingly refers to as Link – to our family. And, as I lay in bed the other night, unable to sleep because Link was going hot and heavy on his hamster wheel, these thoughts came to me …
Are you on the hamster wheel of life?
Sometimes I feel a lot like a hamster … like I’m running in circles, but I’m just not getting anywhere. Maybe you feel this way too (for your sake, I hope not; yet it’s nice to know I’m not alone!)
- Maybe you’re in a dead-end job, working and working with nowhere to go from here.
- Maybe you’re involved in a bad relationship (friend, relative, co-worker, etc.) and it’s draining the life out of you.
- Or maybe you have dreams that just don’t seem reachable, no matter how hard you try.
Whatever your situation, you know what I mean, don’t you? You get to a point where you just want to stop the merry-go-round and get off. Life can be crazy sometimes. Having experienced an episode of stress-induced amnesia once, I know that it’s best if you can remain as stress-free as possible in life. So, while listening to a hamster running on his wheel, I came up with some simple steps to help.
Here are 5 Simple Steps to help you get off the wheel!
#1 – Stop
OK, I know this seems simplistic, but it’s true. If you’re spinning in circles and it’s getting you nowhere, you need to just stop. Our hamster will run on that wheel for hours on end, but when he’s tired of it, he walks away. As humans, it’s sometimes hard for us to walk away from a situation; but, that’s the first (necessary) step.
#2 – Reevaluate
Once you’ve stopped, you need to sit back and think about the situation. Do you want to remain in a job that allows no room for advancement? Is it healthy for you to remain friends with that person when the relationship is all one-sided? Or when you leave a visit with that person feeling like he/she zapped the life right out of you? Why is it that you are unable to attain your dreams? What is it about your situation that you can change? And, what are the steps you can take to make that change?
#3 – Set (new) Goals
So you want a new job? Great! Set some goals and let’s go find a new job. Polish up your resume, decide what it is you want to do, and start selling yourself.
Do you have new dreams or old dreams that you just can’t seem to reach? I bet you can reach them if you just set some goals for yourself. Nobody can expect to buy a new home, move to another state, find a new job, or establish a healthy relationship overnight. But, once you’ve determined to stop what’s holding you back, your next course of action is to set some new goals.
Don’t just set the goals in your head, either – get them down on paper. Post them somewhere that you will see them every day (by your computer, on the refrigerator, on the bathroom mirror), just some place that they are prominent. Out of sight, out of mind, right? You need to be reminded of your goals.
#4 – Make Changes
For me, this step is the hardest of all. Sure, I might know that changes need to be made, but I often tend to be resistant to change. Maybe it’s easier to stay in the dead-end job than to actually make a change to something unfamiliar. Maybe it’s just easier to stay in the draining relationship because then I don’t have to worry about hurting the other person’s feelings. But, it’s important to make changes. Change is a good thing!
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. ~Carol Burnett
I like this quote because it reminds me that I am the one that has to make the changes – nobody else can make them for me.
#5 – Get Started
If you’ve made it this far on the list, all that’s left is to get started!
Here’s to positive changes in your life – and mine! We can do this!