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So this morning, I was just scrolling through Facebook when I got stopped up by this:
Are you even kidding me right now?
This man’s son walked into a nightclub in central Florida the other night (and I’m not even adding the word “gay” to the front of it because, seriously, it doesn’t matter who was inside – people are people); and he went in there with the intent purpose to kill! And he succeeded, by killing 49 people (and injuring a bunch more). And it’s the nightclub’s fault?!
I’ve got news for Mr. Mateen . . . there is no one at fault here but his son!
And I’ve got news for all parents out there . . . no child is perfect. And you know why? Because no adult is perfect. And, therefore, no parent is perfect. We’re all just sinners. We make mistakes. Heaven knows that I do. I’ve made lots of mistakes in my parenting journey. But, it’s my prayer that – since my children are on loan to me from God – that He will cover my mistakes with His grace. It’s my prayer that my children will grow up with a firm foundation, and that they will go out into the world and do good, not evil.
Why make excuses for our children? Why not call a spade a spade?!
I work in customer service for a company geared toward children. For every 10 e-mails we send out to parents telling them about something that their child did wrong (i.e. swearing, being rude to other children, talking about inappropriate things), we might get one back, thanking us for letting them know what their child has done, and saying that they will talk to them about it. These parents are using what their children did wrong as a learning experience – to teach them how they should respond/act differently in the future.
But, at the same time, the other nine parents will write back and make excuses:“My child would never do/say something like that!” or “Oh my gosh! Little Johnny’s account must have been hacked!” or “Susie’s neighbor/cousin/friend was over that day and surely she must have been the one who did this!”
Seriously, people? When are parents going to stand up and take responsibility for their kids? Let’s start admitting that our kids do wrong at times, and start using those times as learning experiences and conversation starters.
My kids aren’t perfect:
- Ashley went through a period of talking back and having no respect. She doesn’t keep her room clean.
- Gracie sometimes thinks she knows more about life than we do. She never wants to tell us that she loves us.
- And Ian lies. A lot more than I’d like to admit. And he grumbles and complains when we ask him to do simple tasks, such as schoolwork.
I don’t always handle these situations the way that I should. Sometimes I get mad – and yell. I’ve had to apologize to my kids for my responses at times. But, then we talk about things, and how we can move forward and work to correct them.
The world isn’t going to get any better until parents admit their kids aren’t perfect.
If we don’t step up to the plate – NOW – then we’re going to see more and more tragic events. The world – and especially our part of it right here in the USA – isn’t going to get any better until parents start disciplining their kids again. It’s going to get worse! Making excuses for the “little things” our kids do might seem harmless enough right now, but it spirals into making excuses for the big things. Maybe Mr. Mateen was making excuses for his son’s childhood wrongdoings too; and now look – his son commits mass murder and it’s somebody else’s fault.
Parents, making excuses for your kids isn’t helping anyone! If your child does something wrong, it’s nobody’s fault but their own. Teach them to take responsibility for their actions – not to lay blame on others. Give them consequences. Making small changes now will lead to big changes in the future.