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This past week has been pretty uneventful, really. Basically, it’s been a week of school for Thi and a week of homeschool (and other things, as it always the case!) for Ian and me.
A little bit ago, I posted this on Facebook:
A lot of people are chuckling at it, and it does seem sort of funny on the surface. But, if I allow myself to sit and really think about it, it brings me to tears. A local friend who has had a lot of foster children come and go from her home reached out to me and said:
Letting you know I will pray—change, even fun stuff, can mess with us –my home is a revolving door and
iget it … Processlike you are now–you are a good writer–write what it feels like to be oddgirl out———-it will be good for others too …
It will help you sort it out and it will be real–and we need to be real—–becoming mama to a teen is much different then acclimating to a baby or toddler like we have done—so yup write it down …
And unfortunately you will probably change more than he this year –but it will make future life changes easier, that is a promise.
Wow! Pretty profound, right? So, I shall share for the sake of you mothers who may come after me ….
- My oldest daughter still lives at home but she’s “in a relationship” (FB status) now, so we really don’t see much of her at all.
- My middle daughter went off to college for the first time this year, so I’m dealing with feelings of missing her, while being so proud of her achievements and her ability to adapt to new situations.
- My youngest son is still homeschooled …. BUT 7TH GRADE! I mean, seriously, I really don’t have any little ones anymore! This past year, he grew taller than me!
- And then we add a 17-year-old boy to our family and …
WHAM! Life just looks so much different in our household!
I don’t say any of this to complain! Our goal as parents has always been to raise our children up for the Lord; and, of course, we knew the time would come when they wouldn’t be here anymore. So, the changes are, for the most part, good. They’re just different too. And that’s OK.
I’ve heard myself say a few times over the past few weeks, “I still didn’t have this whole “boy mom” thing down pat and here I am with TWO boys! What made me think this was a good idea?!”
On Sunday, all the local exchange student were required to participate
I wish I had gotten a picture of all the kids together! It was great to see kids come together from all over the globe – and they act like they’re all great friends!
I think that Thi has had a good week of school. One thing that I’ve noticed about him is that he has no sense of urgency when it comes to time. Because I have observed how slow he is at getting ready and eating, I told him last week that I wanted NO EXERCISE in the morning until he was ready to walk out the door. Even still, he missed the bus last Friday (Day #4 of school) and I had to drive him there. I honestly don’t mind; but, on the other hand, I want to help him establish good habits.
Here it is, a week later, and he nearly missed the bus again this morning! Had I not been standing outside watching for it, he would have! WHY? Well, because 10 minutes after I woke him this morning, I found him doing push-ups, not getting ready! Needless to say, he had to woof down his breakfast and then RUN to catch the bus! I told him that when I tell him things like that they aren’t one-time suggestions, but rules that I expect him to abide by.
He had been asking about a haircut this week, so yesterday (Thursday) I ran him to Walmart after school for a haircut and to look for a few pieces of winter clothing. The girl at Walmart did a great job with both boys’ hair – and I think she got a kick of their brotherly banter as well!
Tonight, Thi has his first social event! I think Brian, Ian, and I will go do something together as our little “family of 3” while he’s gone. (Again, more family dynamics changes that this mama has to adapt to!)
Thanks for reading these posts! I hope they are a blessing to you. If you are considering the possibility of an exchange student, I definitely hope you will decide to give it a try! I will always try to be as open and as honest as possible in sharing our story. AND, you are welcome to ask questions along the way! Leave me a comment here or look me up on Facebook!